ughhhh I put DH on the server in the hopes that it would make it work but nope, it still runs out of memory while trying to join the server

might work better in 3.1 but I'm gonna try again with some other settings before joining

I genuinely have no clue why it's been running out of memory! once I'm in I can turn the render distance up to the hundreds without problem but with the rendering DISABLED and render distance set to LOWEST it does this

oh well.